How to Command Your Mornings & Win Your Day

If there's anyone who can attest to me once not being a morning person, it'd be my husband. Unfortunately, he caught the brunt of my bad attitude that lasted until about 10 AM, after which time I was fully awake.

You see, I was kind of like this YouTube clip that went viral.

The dog on the left....that was me waking up from a sleep induced stupor, not quite ready for the day.

When I say that I struggled in the mornings, honey it was a struggle with a capital S and the sounds of "we shall overcome" in the background.

I could not do mornings.

Not only was it a physical struggle to get out of bed, but it was a mental one. Some mornings I just didn't want to #adult. I dreaded getting up because I knew that it would mean going to a job that I didn't like all that much. Morning after morning, I'd find myself repenting to God for not being excited about a new day. I would repeat Psalm 118:24, "This is the day that the Lord has made; [I] will rejoice and be glad in it" (NKJV, emphasis added), but in the back of my head, I was dreading every minute of it. 

Don't get me wrong... I was certainly glad to be alive. It was the whole being jolly and joyful in the morning that was getting me. I was neither. Unless, of course, it was the weekend...

See, the weekend was different. I would hop out of bed at 6AM or 7AM and head over to my sewing room to get some work done for my DIY blog. I, the woman who hated noise or anyone talking to me in the mornings, would be watching sermons or YouTube videos, listening to music, and I'd be as happy as a cherry on ice cream. 

How could this be?

Well, before I answer that, let's fast forward to now.

Now is waking up around 5:30AM, hopping out of bed to go do a 40 minute intense cardio workout. Now is greeting my husband with, "Good morning," instead of, "ungh...leave me alone!" Now I'm humming tunes and giving real thanks to God for another day.

So, how could it be that I went from hating my mornings to seizing them with joy? Well, I did these five things that I’d recommend you try if you struggle with mornings.

  • 1. Find something to be passionate about.

Waking up to a job that you're not too happy about really doesn't help your excitement levels in the morning. I lived that life for over 6 years. No matter how you bop it, twist it, pull it, or flip it, if you're waking up to spend the majority of your day doing something you don't like, it's hard to get excited. So, I had to find another motivation for the day, like I did on the weekends. That would be my passion, or purpose. 

Every morning I wake up thinking of ways that I can better serve my clients and what content I can create for my readers. In fact, I not only do this in the morning, but I do it throughout the day-- which makes it go by way faster. The point is that instead of thinking about the negative in my day, like sideways emails and long, unproductive meetings, my mind is focused on doing something that will get my closer to my goals and deeper into my purpose. 

Now, I will admit that getting a new job did help with this, but by no means am I telling you to quit your job. Find a passion that will ignite you every morning so that instead of thinking about the job you hate, you're thinking about the impact that you can make with your life. Your creativity is better spent coming up with ideas related to your purpose than ways to skip work for the day. Don’t act like you don’t know what I’m talking about…

  • 2. Start praying instead of complaining.

After reading the book Understanding the Purpose and Power of Prayer and Rediscovering the Kingdom, I really began to take prayer in the morning seriously. Not that I wasn’t praying before, but they were more obligatory, “Lord keep me safe” type of prayers. These books shed light on the importance of prayer, particularly in the morning, and the impact that it has on your day. They changed my prayer stance from beggar & being lazy to praying from a place of authority & boldness. 

When I became more intentional about praying in the morning, I started including two things in my prayers:

  • Holy spirit give me the words to say & show me what I need to do today.
  • God, the onus is on you to perform through me. I’m just a vessel.
Those two statements combined take so much pressure off of my day. In saying them, I’m declaring that my day isn’t my own and that everything in it must be directed and orchestrated by God. This does not mean I’m a puppet waiting for God to physically move me. It means that I’m moving according to God’s direction. 

  • 3. Work out

I know. After all that deep mental and spiritual stuff, here I go talking about working out. Ha! The truth is I don’t know what convinced me to start waking up at 5:30AM for an INSANE workout out, but it HAD to be the leading of the Holy Spirit and not me. I don’t care how much of an attitude change I’ve had in the mornings, I still appreciate my sleep. Regardless, being disciplined enough to work out in the mornings has played a huge role in my day.

I once had a manager who suggested working out in the morning as an excellent way to start your day. I tried it for a couple of weeks and was like, “Nah, not for me.” Ironically, it was also the time when I wasn’t waking up to my passion and I was working a very demanding job that I didn’t enjoy. Go figure! Now, I can’t imagine working out any other time. 

Let’s be honest. I spend the first 10 minutes or so waking my body up, but after that, I’m off to the races baby! I even find myself enjoying it some mornings. Now you know it’s got to be real if I put enjoyment and working out in the same discussion. There is something about getting your blood flowing and muscles moving that not only amps you up for the morning, but gives you energy for the day. Additionally, knocking out a good workout straight out of bed motivates you to keep checking off boxes and making deposits on your dream throughout the day. More importantly, you get it done and free up your evenings for other things

  • 4. Start reciting affirmations

I wrote a whole blog post about this that I’ll link here. Each morning, I recite some or all of the 15 affirmations outlined in that post. I have learned that there is power in telling your day what it will be. I have seen my declarations come to pass on many occasions. For instance, some days I’ll say something to the affect of, “Today is a blessed day. Financial blessing are in store.” That very day, I’ll have a book sale or have a potential client reach out. There is power in what you declare over your day. So stop saying, “It’s a bad day. I can already see it.” Whatever you speak will come to pass, so say the right things!

  • 5. Stop reading emails and being on social media

Now I will admit that I’m not always disciplined with this one, but when I am, I reap the benefits. There is something about reading emails in the morning that make them inevitably annoying. Am I the only one? Maybe it’s because I haven’t built up patience just yet, but when I read emails in the AM they usually won’t get the best response from me. So instead of getting upset about what someone has said, I just stopped checking emails in the morning. Furthermore, I also try to avoid social media unless I choose to post something about my workout. 

I like to think of this as keeping my mind as untainted as possible for as long as possible. My rule of thumb is to check emails and social media once I get to work and I'm eating breakfast. By then, I’ve had my workout, shower, and car ride to get my mind right and get prayed up so that I don’t respond crazy. It also means that I’m putting more emphasis on my time with God than seeing what someone posted in the wee hours of the night.

How to win your day…

Now that you’ve gotten your mornings covered, how do you win your day? Well, you do it by continuing to speak life over it, continuing to pray, using opportunities to work on your passion, continuing to be active, and limiting the time you spend on social media and getting wound up by emails. 

Oh yea...and laugh!

One of the greatest parts of my day is when my husband and I sit down for the evening and watch comedy show reruns and videos. I guess you can say that laughing is a part of our daily schedule. The Bible says that laughter is medicine for the soul. And, if you live in the world that we live in, we need lots of soul medicine. Make fun and laughter a part of your day and I promise it’ll help you win.

Comment below if you remember where bop it, twist it, pull it, flip it came from.