5 Things I've Learned from Marriage (Pt. II)

Yesterday, my husband and I celebrated 2 years of marriage by wandering through the streets of London. You can check out my lifestyle blog for details. Nonetheless, making it to two years of marriage seems to be nothing short of a miracle in our society, so we’ll continue to celebrate each anniversary with grandeur.

Last year, I had a overwhelmingly popular blog that laid out the 5 things that I learned from our first year of marriage. Due to the response, I thought I’d make it something annual, so I present to you...part 2. You can check out last year’s blog here.

5 Things I’ve Learned from Marriage

  • 1. Ask for help & allow your spouse to help you

One of the things that I constantly battle with is allowing my husband to help. Most women can understand this… We just have a certain way that things need to be done that no one else can seem to do correctly but us. This past year, I had to accept that fact that if I didn’t want to be overworked and stressed out, I had to allow my husband to help me in his own way. That meant that even if he didn’t dust the same way I’d dust, the house would still get dusted. I also had to learn to ask for help. My husband always gets on me about trying to do everything on my own. It’s just my nature to constantly be moving and getting things done, so I rarely even think to ask for help. But, again, since I’m all about self care this year, I’ve decided to ask for help and not think about it again. I’m trusting that if my husband agrees to help me, he’ll do it and I’ll just have to be ok on his timing.

  • 2. My husband is not a mind reader

Last year, I talked about communication being important. This year, I learned to be an even better communicator. Though my husband supports every venture that I embark on, he doesn’t necessarily know the intricate details that it takes to pull off. Case and point, my husband does not have an Instagram account, which means he is unaware of the photo expectations of this platform. So, when I say that I need to take pictures for Instagram, he has no clue what I mean or why I want to schedule time to take pictures with his DSLR camera instead of my phone. I’ve learned that instead of getting frustrated, I have to explain things clearly, because he can’t read my mind nor is he knowledgeable of the subject matter. Being clear in my communication allows him to gain understanding and be able to fully support me in that way that I need it. Though it’d be amazing for him to read my mind, I have to settle with opening my mouth and communicating my thoughts.

  • 3. Time is more important than money

As I’m getting older, I’m really at the point where I am willing to spend a few more coins in exchange for more minutes of my day back for things that are more worthwhile. So although my husband and I are very diligent about managing our finances, we’ve also learned that sometime it’s worth it to spend more so that we can enjoy life together. That could be choosing to dine out instead of cooking or to travel abroad from a significant amount of time to experience new things and unplug. Whatever the scenario, I’ve learned to value time more than money even now. There’s no need to wait until retirement to start enjoying each other.

  • 4. How to apologize

I’m completely surprised that I didn’t mention this in my post from last year, but I’ve certainly learned how to apologize. I’ll admit, when we first got married, I was of the prerogative that if I didn’t feel like I did anything wrong, I didn’t have to apologize. Well...that’s the not the way apologies work. So this year, I’ve probably apologized more than ever. Not only have I learned to apologize, but I’ve learned to let it go once I have. There’s no sense in being at odds with the person who’s on the same team as you. If you can’t love and appreciate them enough to apologize, then who exactly will you do it for? Treat your spouse better than you treat anyone else. Period.

  • 5. To pray more diligently for my husband

I mentioned this on one of my book reviews, but one of my focuses for this year has been to be more intentional about praying for my husband. When I say intentional, I mean being specific about praying for his needs and coming into agreement with him on his desires. It’s always easy for us to do a passing prayer of protection and well being, but it is my job as his wife to cover every angle of his life in prayer. I learned this lesson from the amazing book, The Power of a Praying Wife. It’s something that I really take seriously and encourage every wife to do.

So there you have it. My top 5 lessons that I’ve learned from marriage from year 2. I pray that you read something that may have encouraged you to do something differently in your marriage or to continue doing it. 

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